You are using the assertive style when:
You are straightforward and direct without being harsh
You are able to say No firmly but calmly
You do not blame the survivor
You know that you respect others but not necessarily everything they do
For example, a woman has realized that every time she goes back to her marital family there is violence.
The family refuse to own up to their mistakes.
She wants you to decide on her behalf and tell her whether or not she should be going back
An assertive answer would be:
“While I cannot decide for you, I can help you with the process. Let us understand the situation. We’ve tried mediating and talking with your marital family. They clearly denied the violence and said that they will allow you to enter the house only if you agree to the family terms and conditions. You were expecting your partner to support you, but in the meeting he supported what his family said. What do you think will happen if you go back?”