Problem solving

Rehearsal might help her imagine what it would be like to implement a solution

“We can take a look at what options are within your control and what are beyond and make some plans accordingly”

“Let us try and rehearse what it would possibly be like if you went back”

Discuss factors within and beyond her control

If the circumstances can be changed, work on it

Irrespective of the circumstances, you can work on coping skills that lower distress

“You can decide to come back if the situation doesn’t change”

“You can ensure support and stay in touch with the organization and your family members”

“You can determine whom to talk to and whom to maintain a minimal contact with”

“We can try and talk to your marital family members with your consent”

“You can get support from your husband if family members get aggressive”

“You can ensure you don’t harm yourself or end up taking extreme decisions out of coercion”

“Although it would be right for you to expect it, you cannot coax the family to show affection and care”

“If, after repeated efforts at trying to talk to your marital family, they do not change, you might have to accept that the chances of violence might continue”

“If your husband refuses to support you, you cannot force him to”

Apply the decided solution as an experiment

Let her understand that she can always come back if a strategy does not work and that you will follow up on the process

“You can also come back or leave from there if you don’t feel comfortable”

“How have you been since you went back? Are you doing better?”

“Can you try a different solution? If one alternative doesn’t work, it does not mean there are no other possibilities”

“Would you like to continue to go back again? Have you changed your mind about it?”